January 23, 2018

Best father of the bride speech

best father of bride speechOur short guide to the best father of the bride speech.

What Makes A Great Public Speaker?

Preparation of your speech is one thing … delivering it is yet another.

The good news is that your family and friends at a wedding reception are very forgiving. So long as it’s obvious your heart and soul is in it, you can get away with almost anything when it comes to the presentation of the speech. In fact, the best advice for most fathers giving a father of the bride speech is “just get out there, do it and and do it for your daughter”.

Here are some basic tips to successful public speaking:

  • Prepare some notes, so you don’t get lost if your mind goes blank.
  • Stand up straight, keep your chin up and breath deeply. It helps you speak more clearly.
  • Don’t fidget – and definitely keep your hands out of your pockets, away from those keys and small change!
  • Speak to the people at the back of the room – look at them as you start to speak, and speak loud enough for them to hear you. Keep that volume throughout the speech.
  • Look people in the eye as you speak – it helps to build rapport – but don’t stare at just one person all the time!
  • Speak slowly and clearly, and keep to the point without rambling.
  • Try to relax and communicate how you really feel as sincerely as you can.
  • Remember, people love hearing stories much more than listening to lectures.
  • And enjoy yourself – you are paying!!

    Father of the bride speech by Rowan Atkinson

    Father Of The Bride Duties

    father of the bride dutiesFather Of The Bride Duties

    As the father of the bride, you are a key member of the bridal party, and you shouldn’t underestimate the role you will play both on the wedding day itself and in the lead up to the wedding. Here are some of the duties the father of the bride might need to take on; some of which you will be expecting and some of which you might not.

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    Father of the bride duty 1: Paying for the wedding
    In modern society it is becoming more common for the couple to foot the bill for the wedding themselves or for both sets of parents and the couple to divide the cost between them. However, traditionally it is still the father of the bride that pays for the wedding so you will probably need to make some contribution.
    As soon as your daughter is in a relationship that you suspect will lead to marriage, take a look at your finances, decide how much you are willing and able to pay towards the wedding, and subtly make your daughter aware of that. Once the engagement is announced, stick to your guns and don’t make promises in the excitement of the moment that will land you in serious debt.

    Father of the bride duty 2: Walking your daughter down the aisle
    In this role you are literally giving your daughter away to her new husband and his family. Your main duty is to get her to the church on time and walk her down the aisle to where the groom is waiting. The occasion will no doubt be emotional and you may be tempted to have a heartfelt father daughter chat at this time, but unless you want her to be in floods of tears as she arrives at the ceremony settle for giving her a hug and telling her she looks beautiful.

    Father of the bride duty 3: Making a speech

    During the reception it is customary for the father of the bride to make a short speech, thanking the guests and those that have helped with the wedding planning, and talking a little about his daughter and new son-in-law. At the end of the speech the father of the bride usually proposes a toast to the happy couple.

    Father of the bride duty 4: The father daughter dance
    If you’re comfortable on the dance floor, the father daughter dance can be one of the happiest moments of your life. If you have two left feet you might be dreading it. Take a few dance lessons before the big day to learn some basic steps. Try to arrange a lesson for yourself, your wife, your daughter and her fiance all together; it will provide welcome relief from pre wedding stress.

    Father of the bride duty 5: Controlling the mother of the bride
    You may not have seen it coming, but a daughter getting married can have an unusual affect on her mother. There are bound to be disagreements between the bride and her mother over who should arrange what and how things should be done, so think of yourself as a peacekeeper. Be willing to listen to both parties and encourage them to find a middle ground. At the end of the day it is your daughter’s wedding, and you might need to remind her mother of that from time to time.

    Father of the bride duty 6: Wedding counsellor
    You might think that the father of the bride should be exempt from wedding planning duties but you couldn’t be more wrong. As an older wiser man you may be called on to deal with everything from pre-wedding nerves to supplier negotiations. Offer to help out when things get stressful for your daughter. You may be able to deal with wedding problems with less emotion than she can.

    Father of the bride speech jokes

    father of the bride speech jokesHere is a wide range of father of the bride speech jokes, quotes and ideas for your speech to make the special day go really well.

    My thanks to presentation magazine for these jokes.

    It was an emotional wedding. The mother of the bride cried. Even the cake was in tiers.

    After a quarrel, a wife said to her husband, “You know, I was a fool when I married you.” The husband replied, “Yes, dear, but I was in love and didn’t notice.”A man approached a very beautiful woman in a large supermarket and asked, “You know, I’ve lost my wife here in the supermarket. Can you talk to me for a couple of minutes?” “Why?” she asks. “Because every time I talk to a beautiful woman, my wife appears out of nowhere.”

    There are only two times in a man’s life when he can’t understand a woman – before marriage and after marriage. (Anonymous)

    Confucius say, “Man who sinks into woman’s arms;—Soon has his arms in woman’s sink”.

    We call him the exorcist in our house. Every time he comes around, he rids us of all our spirits.

    Here’s to our wives and lovers. May they never meet.

    Don’t marry for money; you can borrow it cheaper. – Scottish Proverb

    The most effective way to remember your wedding anniversary is to forget once.

    If you are afraid of loneliness, don’t marry. – Chekhov

    A husband and wife are getting cosy in bed. The passion is heating up. But then the wife stops and says, ” I don’ t feel like it. I just want you to hold me.” The husband asks why. She explains that he must not be in tune with her emotional needs as a woman. The husband realizes that nothing is going to happen tonight and he might as well deal with it. So the next day the husband takes her shopping at a big dept. store. They walk around and she tries on three very expensive outfits. He then tells his wife “We’ll take all three of them”. They then get matching shoes, a set of diamond earrings and a diamond bracelet. The wife is so excited (she thinks her husband has flipped out, but she does not care) and goes to the pay desk. Her husband says, ” No – no – no, honey we ‘ re not going to buy all this stuff.”. His wife’s face goes blank. “No honey – I just want you to hold this stuff for a while. ” Her face gets really red and she is about to explode and then the husband says “You must not be in tune with my financial needs as a man!

    Marriage is like wine – It gets better with age. – Dudley Moore

    A toast to sweethearts – May all sweethearts become married couples, and may all married couples remain sweethearts. – Unknown

    An archaeologist is the best husband a woman can have; the older she gets the more interested he is in her. – Agatha Christie

    Whenever you’re wrong, admit it. Whenever you’re right, shut up. – Ogden Nash

    A gentleman, who had been very unhappy in marriage, married immediately after his wife died: Johnson said, it was the triumph of hope over experience – Dr. Johnson

    Strange to say what delight we married people have to see these poor fools decoyed into our condition – Samuel Pepys

    If men knew how women pass the time when they are alone, they’d never marry – O. Henry

    Marriage is like life in this – that it is a field of battle, and not a bed of roses – R.L. Stevenson

    Marriage is popular because it combines the maximum of temptation with the maximum of opportunity – George Bernard Shaw

    I am not against hasty marriages, where a mutual flame is fanned by an adequate income – Wilkie Collins

    Though women are angels, yet wedlock’s the devil – Byron

    There you are. I hope that you enjoy your role as the father of the bride and good luck with the speech!

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    Father daughter dance

    father daughter danceThe father daughter dance is so importat , well so much so there are web sites on the subject and here in my opinion is the best father daughter dance routine I have ever seen, take a look yourself.

    And a great site I found on this subject and by the lovely bride in the video is Daddys litte bride

    Here are some tips to help you create an amazing father-daughter dance.

    Select Dances You Can Perform
    Use the Dance Moves page to create a list of dances you like
    Practice each dance and determine the top 10 (or less) dances that you and your dad can actually perform and are comfortable doing
    Select dances from different eras to add variety

    Determine Length of Performance
    Should be no longer than 5 minutes total (30 seconds or less for each dance)
    Perform popular dances longer

    Select Dance Order
    Start and end with popular dances to keep guests’ attention
    Ensure easy transition between each dance so that the performance flows well

    Select Songs
    If a dance has its own song, use it!
    Select songs with nice beats that match well with your movements
    Use well-known songs from the relevant era to capture audience’s attention
    Use iTunes to edit songs and create medley
    Once you have your song in iTunes, create a playlist and put the songs in your preferred order.
    Right click on the song you want to edit. Click Get Info and then select the Options tab.
    Check the Start Time and / or Stop Time boxes and enter the times you would like for the song to start / stop.

    Practice, Practice, Practice!
    Practice like it’s your final performance
    Wear actual shoes during practice sessions
    Have someone video each session for your review
    Practice at least once at your venue

    Meet with DJ Before Performance
    Provide multiple copies of your music
    Flash drive
    At least 2 CDs
    MP3 player
    Ensure your music works on DJ’s equipment
    Have Fun!!!

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    Butterfly kisses song

    butterfly kisses songButterfly kisses song must be the biggest father daughter dance song of all time. here we have various greatr versions of it for your listening pleasure.

    Bob Carlisles’ Butterfly kisses song

    Bob again, country style (nice one)

    Westlife’s version

    Great version by somebody on Youtube (beautiful voice)

    Butterfly Kisses Lyrics

    There’s two things I know for sure:
    She was sent here from heaven and she’s daddy’s little girl.
    As I drop to my knees by her bed at night
    She talks to Jesus and I close my eyes
    and I thank god for all of the joy in my life
    Oh, but most of all

    For butterfly kisses after bedtime prayer;
    sticking little white flowers all up in her hair;
    “Walk beside the pony, Daddy, it’s my first ride.”
    “I know the cake looks funny, Daddy, but I sure tried.”
    Oh, with all that I’ve done wrong, I must have done something right
    To deserve a hug every morning And butterfly kisses at night.

    Sweet 16 today
    She’s looking like her mama a little more everyday
    One part woman, the other part girl.
    To perfume and make-up from ribbons and curls
    Trying her wings out in a great big world.
    But I remember…..

    Butterfly kisses after bedtime prayer;
    sticking little white flowers all up in her hair.
    “You know how much I love you, Daddy,
    But if you don’t mind I’m only gonna kiss you on the cheek this time.”
    Oh with all that I’ve done wrong I must have done something right
    to deserve her love every morning and butterfly kisses at night.

    All the precious time
    Like the wind, the years go by.
    Precious butterfly.
    Spread your wings and fly.

    She’ll change her name today.
    She’ll make a promise and I’ll give her away.
    Standing in the bride-room just staring at her.
    She asked me what I’m thinking and I said
    “I’m not sure-I just feel like I’m losing my baby girl.”
    She leaned over

    Gave me butterfly kisses with her mama there,
    Sticking little white flowers all up in her hair
    “Walk me down the aisle, Daddy-it’s just about time.”
    “Does my wedding gown look pretty, Daddy? Daddy, don’t cry”
    Oh, with all that I’ve done wrong I must have done something right.
    To deserve her love every morning and butterfly kisses

    I couldn’t ask God for more, man this is what love is.
    I know I gotta let her go, but I’ll always remember
    Every hug in the morning and butterfly kisses…

    Wikipedia’s butterfly kisses song

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    Top 10 tips for father of the bride

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    As Father of the bride – Here’s how you should get involved

    There’s so much more to being a father of the bride than just draining your credit card!
    1. Make a financial plan
    Before it becomes an issue, talk with your partner about your plans for funding the festivities. The newly engaged couple might be, as we mentioned, planning to pay for it themselves. But if they’re not, plan out in advance how much you’re willing to pitch in for the wedding. And once you’ve set a limit, stick with it — if you let that “daddy’s little girl” routine work on you once, it’s only going to work on you again and again!
    2. Play Your Part
    Sorry, but being a guy doesn’t give you license to sit this one out. Weddings can be a lot of work, and the bride and groom are likely to need all the help they can get. Ask your son or daughter if there’s anything you can help out with. If you’ve got a green thumb, maybe you can visit the florist with them. A sweet tooth? Tag along for the cake tasting.
    3. Keep the Peace
    Tensions can run high sometimes, and you might sometimes find yourself in the position of mediating between two warring parties who are both very close to you — like your wife and your daughter. Do your best to keep things running smoothly by listening to both sides of the story, and try to help hash out a compromise.
    4. Grab Your Tux…
    If the groom and groomsmen are wearing tuxes, you will too. If you’re renting a tuxedo, you’ll want to rent from a shop near where the wedding’s happening — that way, the tuxes will be ready and waiting right where you are. Go to your local tux shop (if it’s not the one you’ll be picking up at, formalwear chains will usually be willing to send your measurements and order to any of their locations) to get fitted about three months before the big day. Find the closest local formalwear using The Knot Local Resources page. Don’t forget to ask about all the extras — think of anything you’ll need, from suspenders to shoes.
    5. …Or Your Best Suit
    If the wedding’s less formal, your attire might be totally different. Look to the bride and groom to give you your style cues (or if you’re really fashion-challenged, to tell you exactly what to wear). Many weddings today are more casual, so don’t be surprised if you wind up in a linen suit or a guayabera and dark pants for a summer affair.
    6. Be There for Them
    We can’t say it enough: Between dealing with vendors, dealing with the wedding party, and dealing with guests, wedding planning can lead to some sticky situations. When your son, daughter, or wife gets really stressed out, it’s important for you to be there as a sounding board for advice. When things get tough, they need to know dear old dad is on their side.
    7. Put Your Best Foot Forward
    Whether you’re dancing with your daughter or your wife, there’s a decent chance that for at least one song during the reception, all eyes will be on you. Dancing not really your thing? Then you definitely need to get ready for your turn in the spotlight. A couple of dance lessons might be in order if you want to be able to surprise the bride with your moves. If you’re not feeling so bold, practicing with your wife at home is an easy (and romantic) solution to your dance dilemma.
    8. Say a Few Words
    Whether at the rehearsal dinner or the wedding (or sometimes both), it’s customary for the dads to give a little toast to the happy couple. Not sure what to say? Rather than rambling, it’s always best to stick to the basics. Thank everyone for being there, tell everyone how happy and proud you’re feeling at that moment, then raise your glass to the bride and groom. See, that wasn’t too tough, was it?
    9. Don’t Overindulge
    When you’re the father of the bride or the groom, everyone wants to congratulate you, shake your hand, …and have a drink. We’re all for the former, but you need to keep tabs on the latter. Maintaining a celebratory mood is fine, getting completely plastered is not. After all, you want to remember seeing all your old friends again and meeting new ones — not the moment when you grabbed the mic for an impromptu drunken rendition of “My Girl.”
    10. Have Fun!
    On the wedding day, there’s lots for you to do. Walk down the aisle. Accept everyone’s congratulations. Dance with your daughter or your new daughter-in-law — don’t forget to tell her how beautiful she looks! And of course, take a minute or two to take it all in. It’s not just a big day for the bride and groom, it’s a celebration for your entire family.

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    Father daughter dance songs

    father daughter dance songs Father daughter dance songs, wow what an important decision to make, so many songs, so many memories, but usually only a few special songs or even just one that means the most to a father daughter relationship. The father daughter dance is one of the many highlights of a great wedding and an amazing thing to do, so choose wisely. and good luck, I bet you know already?

    This is a great list and i have added some Youtube videos for you to look through to maybe help your important dance song decision.

    Father Daughter Dance Songs – Popular & Classic Choices

    Bob Carlisle – Butterfly Kisses

    Steven Curtis Chapman – Cinderella

    Heartland – I Loved Her First

    The Beatles – In My Life

    Stevie Wonder – Isn’t She Lovely

    Billy Joel – Just The Way You Are

    The Temptations – My Girl

    Tim McGraw – My Little Girl

    Israel Kamakawiwo‘ole – Over The Rainbow/What A Wonderful World (great version)

    Nat King Cole – Unforgettable (Duet with Natalie Cole)

    Louis Armstrong – What A Wonderful World

    Sweet & Sentimental

    Carole King – Child Of Mine

    Paul Simon – Father And Daughter

    Bob Dylan – Forever Young

    The Beach Boys – God Only Knows

    Billy Joel – Lullabye (Goodnight, My Angel)

    The Ultimate Beatles Cover Band – I Will (Cover of The Beatles)

    Darius Rucker – It Won’t Be Like This For Long

    Natalie Merchant – Kind & Generous

    Jimmy Buffett – Little Miss Magic

    World Party – She’s The One

    Dixie Chicks – Lullaby

    Rascal Flatts – My Wish

    Elvis Costello – She

    Bruce Springsteen – When You Need Me

    John Fogerty – I Will Walk With You

    Ben E King – Stand By Me

    Elvis Presley – The Wonder Of You

    Fleetwood Mac – Songbird

    Kenny Chesney – There Goes My Life

    Faith Hill – There You’ll Be

    Kenny Rogers – Through The Years

    Nickel Creek – When You Come Back Down

    Stevie Wonder – You Are The Sunshine Of My Life

    Joe Cocker – Darling Be Home Soon

    James Taylor – You’ve Got A Friend

    Clem Snide – Find Love

    Clark Richard – Red Robin

    Bon Jovi – Thank You For Loving Me

    Otis Redding – That’s How Strong My Love Is

    Lulu – To Sir With Love

    Van Morrison – Tupelo Honey

    Rod Stewart – Forever Young

    Déjà Vu – You’ll Always Be My Baby (Cover of Sara Evans)

    Neil Young – Here For You

    Endearing But Not Overly Emotional

    Loudon Wainwright III – Daughter

    Frank Sinatra – Always

    Dean Martin – I Wish You Love

    Van Morrison – Moondance

    Tom Petty – Wildflowers

    Bad English – When I See You Smile

    Andy Williams – Moon River

    James Taylor – Shower The People

    Crosby, Still, Nash & Young – Teach Your Children

    Five For Fighting – 100 Years

    Upbeat & Fun

    Marvin Gaye – How Sweet It Is (To Be Loved By You)

    The Temptations – The Way You Do The Things You Do

    The Cars – Just What I Needed

    Van Morrison – Brown Eyed Girl

    Slash – Sweet Child O’ Mine

    Louis Armstrong – I Won’t Dance

    Spiral Staircase – More Today Than Yesterday

    Sam Cooke – Nothing Can Change This Love

    Paul Simon – You Can Call Me Al

    Big Bad Voodoo Daddy – I Wanna Be Just Like You

    Van Morrison – Jackie Wilson Said

    Queen – You’re My Best Friend

    Ray Charles – Ain’t That Love

    Frank Sinatra – Too Marvelous For Words

    Bread – Daughter

    Studio 99 – Two of Us (Cover of The Beatles)

    Bellamy Brothers – Let Your Love Flow

    James Taylor – Your Smiling Face

    The Rolling Stones – She’s A Rainbow

    For Stepdads/Dads-In-Law/Uncles/Grandpas/Etc.

    Bob Dylan – Forever Young

    The Beach Boys – God Only Knows

    The Beatles Recovered Band – In My Life (Cover of The Beatles)

    John Fogerty – I Will Walk With You

    Billy Joel – Just The Way You Are

    Natalie Merchant – Kind & Generous

    The Temptations – My Girl

    The Rolling Stones – She’s A Rainbow

    Rascal Flatts – My Wish

    Israel Kamakawiwo‘ole – Over The Rainbow/What A Wonderful World

    World Party – She’s The One

    Faith Hill – There You’ll Be

    James Taylor – You’ve Got A Friend

    Dean Martin – I Wish You Love

    James Taylor – Shower The People

    Otis Redding – That’s How Strong My Love Is


    Fleetwood Mac – Landslide

    Staind – Zoe Jane

    Cary Brothers – Blue Eyes

    Sarah McLachlan – Ordinary Miracle

    Great White – Thank You (Cover of Led Zeppelin)

    The Muppets – Rainbow Connection

    Wilco – My Darling

    Tom Petty – American Girl

    John Denver – Sunshine On My Shoulders

    10,000 Maniacs – How You’ve Grown

    The Cars – Just What I Needed

    The Beatles Recovered Band – Blackbird (Cover of The Beatles

    Journey – Lights

    Warrant – Heaven

    Priscilla Ahn – Dream

    Vitamin String Quartet – Sweet Child O’ Mine

    Queen – You’re My Best Friend

    Ben Folds – Gracie

    Keb’ Mo’ – Life Is Beautiful

    Déjà Vu – Nightingale (Cover of Norah Jones)

    Rufus Wainwright – Across The Universe

    The Beach Boys – Surfer Girl

    Cat Stevens – Wild World

    Frankie Avalon – Bobby Sox To Stockings

    Tori Amos – Winter

    The Byrds – Turn! Turn! Turn! (To Everything There Is A Season)

    Norman Blake – You Are My Sunshine

    The Stylistics – You’re a Big Girl Now

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    Father of the bride speeches

    father of  the bride speechesHere are some top tips to help the father of the bride speeches, maybe you have one by now or several. We can help you get one amazing speech.

    When does he speak:
    Usually the father of the bride is the first person to speak, and normally is at the end of the meal. Break with tradition if you are concerned and get your speech out of the way before the meal. You and the other speakers can then enjoy the rest of the evening.

    Your speech should last 5 minutes.

    Write down your headings from the speech, for example;

    • Welcome
    • Thank you’s
    • Why I love you so much
    • The bride’s early years
    • Her career
    • How they met
    • Welcome the groom to the family
    • Marriage guidance

    This makes it easier to write and breaks it down. End the speech with some thoughts on marriage and welcome the groom to the family. Always add some sentiment, tell her how proud you are of her, make them laugh and make them cry.

    Good taste:
    Never be crass but be funny where you can. Always remember, if you find things funny, others may not, ask a close friend for a view. If it isnt funny, don’t go there. Very importantly, never ever embarrass your daughter. Remember it is her day and not yours, even though you may have paid for it!! Keep any jokes short and punchy, if they don’t go well, just keep moving.

    Must keep it friendly:
    Do not be formal, it should be as if you were telling a story to friends and family, relax they all want to hear you and want you to do well. Nobody wants a bad father of the bride speech.

    Learn your speech:
    Try and learn the speech, you don’t have to know it by heart, but the more you do know it the more confident you will be. So, if you haven’t had to learn anything in a while, just read it over and over a few times, or even record it on a device and play it in the car.

    Make copies:
    Print off several copies and hand them to friends, so you won’t panic about losing the speech.

    Relax and don’t rush it:
    Take your time, pause for effect and speak clearly and slowly. Use a microphone if one is available, it will help you sound clearer and obviously louder and be received better.

    Have a lot to drink:
    Only joking, have a couple before the speech to help calm yourself but no more.

    Be animated:
    Have fun, it is a performance after all, use your hands and be expressive, this will help you feel in control. You are with friends and family, who want you to do well, so try and enjoy yourself. And show the reception how proud you are of your beautiful daughter.

    Big finish:
    Always end with a toast to the happy couple and gert everybody up and raise their glasses, this is your big finish, so enjoy it!!!

    Here are a few opening lines to consider, the opening line is crucial to calm your nerves, get their attention and start you off on the course to a great speech.

    I do feel very honored to stand here today, I can speak and you will listen and let me tell you, for a man married xx years, this is a rare event.

    I am a very proud father today, my beautiful daughter has become someone’s wife. I am not necessarily losing a daughter, but gaining a son, and a designated driver, a gardener, an odd job man, a car mechanic, and a personal decorator.

    I had tears in my eyes when I saw my beautiful daughter this morning, not just because she looked so stunning but because I was adding up the bill for today and I had forgotten the cost of the dress!!

    Good luck with your speech, don’t forget you are the father of the bride, go and give a great father of bride speech…

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