January 23, 2018

Top 10 tips for father of the bride

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As Father of the bride – Here’s how you should get involved

There’s so much more to being a father of the bride than just draining your credit card!
1. Make a financial plan
Before it becomes an issue, talk with your partner about your plans for funding the festivities. The newly engaged couple might be, as we mentioned, planning to pay for it themselves. But if they’re not, plan out in advance how much you’re willing to pitch in for the wedding. And once you’ve set a limit, stick with it — if you let that “daddy’s little girl” routine work on you once, it’s only going to work on you again and again!
2. Play Your Part
Sorry, but being a guy doesn’t give you license to sit this one out. Weddings can be a lot of work, and the bride and groom are likely to need all the help they can get. Ask your son or daughter if there’s anything you can help out with. If you’ve got a green thumb, maybe you can visit the florist with them. A sweet tooth? Tag along for the cake tasting.
3. Keep the Peace
Tensions can run high sometimes, and you might sometimes find yourself in the position of mediating between two warring parties who are both very close to you — like your wife and your daughter. Do your best to keep things running smoothly by listening to both sides of the story, and try to help hash out a compromise.
4. Grab Your Tux…
If the groom and groomsmen are wearing tuxes, you will too. If you’re renting a tuxedo, you’ll want to rent from a shop near where the wedding’s happening — that way, the tuxes will be ready and waiting right where you are. Go to your local tux shop (if it’s not the one you’ll be picking up at, formalwear chains will usually be willing to send your measurements and order to any of their locations) to get fitted about three months before the big day. Find the closest local formalwear using The Knot Local Resources page. Don’t forget to ask about all the extras — think of anything you’ll need, from suspenders to shoes.
5. …Or Your Best Suit
If the wedding’s less formal, your attire might be totally different. Look to the bride and groom to give you your style cues (or if you’re really fashion-challenged, to tell you exactly what to wear). Many weddings today are more casual, so don’t be surprised if you wind up in a linen suit or a guayabera and dark pants for a summer affair.
6. Be There for Them
We can’t say it enough: Between dealing with vendors, dealing with the wedding party, and dealing with guests, wedding planning can lead to some sticky situations. When your son, daughter, or wife gets really stressed out, it’s important for you to be there as a sounding board for advice. When things get tough, they need to know dear old dad is on their side.
7. Put Your Best Foot Forward
Whether you’re dancing with your daughter or your wife, there’s a decent chance that for at least one song during the reception, all eyes will be on you. Dancing not really your thing? Then you definitely need to get ready for your turn in the spotlight. A couple of dance lessons might be in order if you want to be able to surprise the bride with your moves. If you’re not feeling so bold, practicing with your wife at home is an easy (and romantic) solution to your dance dilemma.
8. Say a Few Words
Whether at the rehearsal dinner or the wedding (or sometimes both), it’s customary for the dads to give a little toast to the happy couple. Not sure what to say? Rather than rambling, it’s always best to stick to the basics. Thank everyone for being there, tell everyone how happy and proud you’re feeling at that moment, then raise your glass to the bride and groom. See, that wasn’t too tough, was it?
9. Don’t Overindulge
When you’re the father of the bride or the groom, everyone wants to congratulate you, shake your hand, …and have a drink. We’re all for the former, but you need to keep tabs on the latter. Maintaining a celebratory mood is fine, getting completely plastered is not. After all, you want to remember seeing all your old friends again and meeting new ones — not the moment when you grabbed the mic for an impromptu drunken rendition of “My Girl.”
10. Have Fun!
On the wedding day, there’s lots for you to do. Walk down the aisle. Accept everyone’s congratulations. Dance with your daughter or your new daughter-in-law — don’t forget to tell her how beautiful she looks! And of course, take a minute or two to take it all in. It’s not just a big day for the bride and groom, it’s a celebration for your entire family.

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Father of the bride speeches

father of  the bride speechesHere are some top tips to help the father of the bride speeches, maybe you have one by now or several. We can help you get one amazing speech.

When does he speak:
Usually the father of the bride is the first person to speak, and normally is at the end of the meal. Break with tradition if you are concerned and get your speech out of the way before the meal. You and the other speakers can then enjoy the rest of the evening.

Your speech should last 5 minutes.

Write down your headings from the speech, for example;

  • Welcome
  • Thank you’s
  • Why I love you so much
  • The bride’s early years
  • Her career
  • How they met
  • Welcome the groom to the family
  • Marriage guidance

This makes it easier to write and breaks it down. End the speech with some thoughts on marriage and welcome the groom to the family. Always add some sentiment, tell her how proud you are of her, make them laugh and make them cry.

Good taste:
Never be crass but be funny where you can. Always remember, if you find things funny, others may not, ask a close friend for a view. If it isnt funny, don’t go there. Very importantly, never ever embarrass your daughter. Remember it is her day and not yours, even though you may have paid for it!! Keep any jokes short and punchy, if they don’t go well, just keep moving.

Must keep it friendly:
Do not be formal, it should be as if you were telling a story to friends and family, relax they all want to hear you and want you to do well. Nobody wants a bad father of the bride speech.

Learn your speech:
Try and learn the speech, you don’t have to know it by heart, but the more you do know it the more confident you will be. So, if you haven’t had to learn anything in a while, just read it over and over a few times, or even record it on a device and play it in the car.

Make copies:
Print off several copies and hand them to friends, so you won’t panic about losing the speech.

Relax and don’t rush it:
Take your time, pause for effect and speak clearly and slowly. Use a microphone if one is available, it will help you sound clearer and obviously louder and be received better.

Have a lot to drink:
Only joking, have a couple before the speech to help calm yourself but no more.

Be animated:
Have fun, it is a performance after all, use your hands and be expressive, this will help you feel in control. You are with friends and family, who want you to do well, so try and enjoy yourself. And show the reception how proud you are of your beautiful daughter.

Big finish:
Always end with a toast to the happy couple and gert everybody up and raise their glasses, this is your big finish, so enjoy it!!!

Here are a few opening lines to consider, the opening line is crucial to calm your nerves, get their attention and start you off on the course to a great speech.

I do feel very honored to stand here today, I can speak and you will listen and let me tell you, for a man married xx years, this is a rare event.

I am a very proud father today, my beautiful daughter has become someone’s wife. I am not necessarily losing a daughter, but gaining a son, and a designated driver, a gardener, an odd job man, a car mechanic, and a personal decorator.

I had tears in my eyes when I saw my beautiful daughter this morning, not just because she looked so stunning but because I was adding up the bill for today and I had forgotten the cost of the dress!!

Good luck with your speech, don’t forget you are the father of the bride, go and give a great father of bride speech…

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